Let’s think of your essence like perfume. Well in order for your perfume to smell sparkling and beautiful it has to be a collection of beautiful scents or frequencies (because perfume represents your energy field).
I’m speaking very generally hear, not specifically about myself but a world wide thing because right now there is a world wide push of people leaving their family members because. And I think that in some healing circles and therapy sessions there is a push for this because how can you heal with poison inside of you? It’s an over correction but it dose need to happen. One thing that my therapist taught me is that you have to be disrespectful to the illness or the energetic or spiritual illness that the person has inside of them otherwise you risk turning into it too.
If you have family who haven’t done their healing or is jealous of you (i.e. You’ve been made to be the black sheep). Then their perfume can get into yours except their perfume is rancid, well what happens when you mix a drop of rancid perfume into a bottom of pure perfume? It messes up the fragrance or the frequency, or another way to say it – it destroys the perfume. This is why collectively there’s such a push right now worldwide to cut off family members. Whatever happens in the energetic realm pushes through on the physical realm that we see. That’s what that scene in the Barbie movie was about, as Barbie land was messed up things became extremely messed up with humans too. Except this isn’t something outside of you, this is something that was done inside of your body. Or another way to say it, you’re perfume.
Your perfume your essence is desperately trying to get back to it’s original scent. As – through transformation after transformation it renews again.
Your true frequency, your true perfume is trying to get through your body but over the generations many batches of it has been made and not all of them came out just right.
Now for those of who were made to be super respectful in your culture this is going to be super hard. And frankly this is why it was integrated into your culture. Standing up for yourself and having boundaries can feel like leaving your culture behind however it’s actually not your culture that your leaving it was a spot that was imprinted onto it.
You can say things like “This is hard for both of us,” Or “I know this is a hard time for both of us” before firmly stating your boundary to the illness however this also comes with pain because it takes also knowing deep within your heart that you might lose that person and that the door might shut. Sometimes it takes knowing that, the connection that you had to that person wasn’t healthy, it was like a sick vine coming off of a vergetable and perhaps once you prune it (which only you can do to a point, the rest is on them) you have to cut off the part of it entangling you and make sure that you, yourself are planted in the freshest fertilizer in the world. Then once you can grow into the healthier vegetable that perhaps maybe even has flowers on it like the – like the Squash which has gorgeous flowers on it that are yellow like the flower of Oshun…..
maybe, just made your family members veggies might grow into a healthier much more beautiful garden that not only you can fully rest in but both of you can rest in together.