“Walk in service & cover yourself in crystals. But only after you have dipped yourself in self-worth, self-care, & self-love first.”
At my last bikini competition I finished dead last. And you know what? It was my favorite bodybuilding show that I have ever done. Four days before my show I did some mindset work with my coach Amanda Nelson of patchedwangs. com and she unveiled my beauty for me and I started to see just a tiny bit that I really was enough. The work that I did with her and with her C. O. N. N. E. C. T method and private coaching was so effective that when it came to the moment where I stood on a stage in “stripper shoes” and a bikini that literally fits in the palm of my hand and was ranked as the worst body on stage – I still walked away from it feeling blessed by God, feminine, and free. Thanks Amanda! I wanted to share this story with you though because I think a lot of us base our self worth on numbers on a scale or the opinions and judgments of others. And neither one of those judgments, neither one of those “outfits” look sexy on us. Your more beautiful when you are your own secret recipe and you are more delicious au natural. ◆◆◆ A sexy little sidenote here, I don’t share this to say that I’m happy about my ranking. My job as a goddess in training to bring the best version of myself to each situation that I’m in and I didn’t do that. But I know that I didn’t do it – not because of their ranking, but because of how I objectively can look at the situation myself and when I do it that way then I place the ownership back in my hands. A part of being a woman is knowing your strengths, your weaknesses, your skills, and your couture value. Never compare yourself to others, bring the best version of yourself to each situation that you are in and live your best life. Or another way to say it, “Sip life like champagne and sip it now!” When you strip off you all the parts that do not belong on top of you, you will find that the au natural woman who lies beneath the layers is soft, sensual, sexy, and empowered in the most beautiful and goddess like of ways. Self-worth is powerful, self-worth is bold, self-worth is vulnerable, self-worth is intimate and self-worth is sexy. It’s our limitless pool of diamonds just waiting for us to go skinny dipping in. Today we have reached the last of the three beautiful steps of owning, unveiling, and walking into our worth. And along the way we have been accompanied with gemstones from women who share their personal secrets for making, “their self love their self glow.” I have a few very powerful women who are going to sit down with you and their stories with you before we wrap things up with some “strawberry and champagne.” But first, let’s pick unveil the last little “sparkle” in walking in our self-worth. Which is too… “Goddess & let go.” I used to run myself ragged trying to meet the expectations of others and trying to fit the mold, now I just “goddess and let go” and left the mold behind because it didn’t fit my sexiness in the first place. This is in the only time in the world that the world will get to experience a woman like you so why not live it to the fullest and give yourself, your loved ones and the world the sexiest version of you? What I didn’t realize before is that even when I didn’t see my own worth, other people did and they were helping themselves to it all the time, and not out of spite but they can’t help but see it, and if you see something sweet then why not taste it (so to speak). And that’s not a bad thing, that’s a beautiful blessing! A part of us being here on this earth is to help each other! If you made a fabulous apple from scratch pie wouldn’t you invite other people to taste it? It’s a blessing that they see worth in us but the thing is that you need to treat yourself to your own blessing. Whether or not others see the blessings in us, we need to see the blessings in us and sample our own apple pie for as many slices of ourselves as our soul needs us too! And then sometimes we need to go down to the ingredients behind the ingredients and go deeper. That’s where the deliciousness really comes from. “Our value is in our essence and our energy.” – Anya Grace. ◆◆◆ Our worth is like a limitless pool of diamonds.
Us not seeing our worth is like we are in the desert, our throats are parched, our skin is sunburned, and we can feel all the strength in our body slowly start to disappear – all the while there is refreshing pool of fresh, sweet water that gentle sits on top of diamonds right next to us. Your worth is waiting right next to you Goddess and it’s waiting for you to not only dip your toe but to cover your whole body in it. “You value is in your being.” – Chelsea Roses.
Make your self love be your self glow and be a sweet refreshing exhale for yourself so that then you can become a sweet refreshing exhale for someone else.
Goddess Spa & Relaxation Time: One of the things that I did when I moved to Texas is that I married myself. This picture is my viewpoint from a park bench as I prepared my wedding vows. When I was younger I used to say that once a year I was going to get all my girlfriends together and that we would all dress in white. There would be a ceremony and then enjoy a spa day. We would have a beautiful dinner and then party until 2 am in the morning as our inner goddesses come out and play. Below are the wedding vows that I wrote to myself, maybe something that I wrote will inspire you to design a sacred set of your own? You can’t be married to your God, your husband, your children, or your goals if you aren’t first married to you. p.s. I’m still saving up for a ring like that giant flower ring that Samantha wore in Sex & the City, most jewelers are men but I found a woman jeweler who handcrafts custom engagement pieces and wedding vows. Her name is Dora Szekely, and you can find her at Livandlove. com her gorgeous piece are both ethical and ecological, and her designs? Well Beautiful, they will take your breath away! She has agreed to create my wedding ring for me. I’m excited to show it you someday soon and to be able to share wedding vows with you as we trade “wedding vow stories” with each other.
My Wedding Vows Dear Jasmyne, I choose you. I take you to be my wife, with your beauty & with your imperfections; I promise to unconditionally love your mind, soul, & body as the natural goddess that you are. I promise to love you at all times, even on those days that you feel fragile and are having a hard time loving yourself. I promise to remind you of your womanhood and that you are more valuable than rubies or platinum. I promise to laugh with you and to cry with you and to always sit beside you with grace – even in these moments that you feel humiliated. I promise to remind you that you are more then just worth it, you are also valuable. I promise to cover you in diamonds and beautiful things and to respect your body at a higher level than my own. I promise to hold the standard high for you and to treat your broken pieces carefully, like I would pink diamonds and gold. I promise to encourage you to each day open yourself to become more soft and radiant – so that you can fully absorb and radiate the light that comes with God’s peace and that comes with God’s glow. Your self-love is your self-glow and I promise to love you at a level that few women on this earth have ever been able to open themselves up to experience. I promise to always help you to pick the “Goddess” thought and to each day remind you of the natural goddess inside of you. Always remember that the highest form of yourself is being a moldable creation of the hands of the almighty God, there is nothing greater (Jesus Calling by Sarah Young, 2004). The more we cover ourselves in sensuality and take care of your body the more your soul will feel at peace. I promise to walk with you and to believe in you while you do that. I love you for being you and because you are you. Thank you for choosing me. Don’t worry about letting me down. You don’t have to be perfect because you are already perfectly mine. I will stand by you in the storms and the sunshine. I will kneel with you in prayer and I will collapse on the ground and sob right next to you because I love you. You are a natural goddess who is covered in blessings and no action, place, or person can devalue you. Your sacred and beautiful and your self-love is your self-glow. I promise to fill your life with orgasmic bliss and limitless ecstasy. You are amazing, you are treasured, you are me. I promise to keep you safe in God’s hands and to fill you with a limitless self love. Love, Jasmyne
Goddessing and letting go is bringing your best version of yourself to the table and then completely releasing and relaxing into the Universe. Inhale goddessness and exhale everything else. Yes, we were made to nourish others, to serve, to honor and to love. But when you are full of your own self worth, your service will become more pure, honest, and valuable. Goddesses who serve from a place of pure love are some of the rarest and most beautiful diamonds in the world.
Here’s to pouring from a limitless cup of diamonds, sipping life like champagne, and making life sparkle in a special way that only you can, as your self love becomes your self glow.